Saying ‘No’ could change your life!
Change your life by saying “no” to the things that don’t serve you.
Often, we say yes out of obligation or fear of hurting other peoples feelings. In the long run, however, we are usually the ones who suffer the consequences of not establishing boundaries, when our well-meaning yesses take up our time and clutter up our cupboards.
We’ve all said yes to things we know we should’ve said no to at some point, in the process we have been saying yes to others and no to ourselves.
How would your life be different if you were able to address intrusive requests head-on, and say no?
By saying no to the things that rob you of your need and desires, you say yes to yourself.
There are a few things you should learn how to say NO to
Say NO to bad relationships
You say yes to yourself when you say no to their negativity. Saying no might mean declining to catch-up with people, or where there is not much choice but to be in their presence, it might mean employing strategies that stop the criticism or negativity in its tracks. These strategies might be as simple as reflecting the negativity back to the offender by verbally acknowledging that they are criticising or that their words are hurtful or inappropriate. You can also say no by taking the opportunity to let the person now that you do not wish to engage in a conversation that is negative or critical. This might be enough to get them to stop and consider their responses more consciously, (no one wants to be told that they sound negative or critical).
This can be a useful strategy no matter what the relationship to you. In the long term, you want to have as little contact with anyone who is critical or abusive towards you as possible, you can use the energy you save to build a stronger friendship circle filled with the people who matter to you and who fill your life with joy.
Say NO to others expectations
Many of us have grown up with expectations about which path we should follow in life. Maybe you were expected to take over the family business, or perhaps you were supposed to climb the corporate ladder or get married and produce grandkids to satisfy your parents.
You have absolutely no obligation to please anyone by fitting into their expectations. When you say no directly to the person who is requesting that you behave a certain way, you say yes to a future that is designed by you, for you. You also get the chance to release resentment and frustration and open the door to the freedom and excitement that comes when you approach an unknown path. It requires self-confidence and self-love to say no to those who want the best for you. If you can remember that your way of doing things is just as valid, you will feel more comfortable treading your path.
Say NO to bad habits
Bad habits are behaviours that we have become accustomed to and feel safe and secure with. Bad habits can be super bad for our health and our personal growth. Habits such as smoking, drinking, spending too much time on social media or too much money on meaningless stuff, can leave us feeling bad about ourselves and ultimately ruin our physical and mental health. By putting a conscious stop to those behaviours that are not helping you to be the best version of yourself, you open yourself up to better habits and more productive activities to take their place. Validate yourself whenever you say no to a bad habit, the more you say no, the easier the chain is to break.
Say No to more
Kinesiology can help you let go and say NO.
Kinesiology therapy combined with our intuitive counselling services is designed to help you to reduce stress, worry and anxiety on different levels.
By working with the subconscious mind to unlock and integrate past experiences and events, we can help the body to let go of what is no longer serving you and empower you to say no in a compassionate and caring way to the people and experiences in your life that cause you stress.
Kinesiology works with muscle testing as an avenue to access the subconscious mind. The therapy combines Counselling, Chinese medicine meridian system, Yoga philosophy and practices such as Meditation to balance mind and body.
Suggested treatment plan.
When working with a kinesiologist, we recommend.
- An initial 90-minute kinesiology consultation followed by 3 – 5 standard consultations 1 -2 weeks apart.
- Further follow-up standard consultations should be spaced between 2 -4 weeks apart or booked as needed.
Kristen is a qualified Kinesiologist, Coach, Counsellor an Yoga teacher. She has been helping people with their physical, emotional and spiritual journeys for over 12 years.
Kristen specialises in working with the mind-body-energy connection and the subconscious mind. She works with the energy-body as an interface between the physical and the mind.
By bringing together kinesiology, conscious coaching, counselling, dreamwork, yoga and chinese medicine Kristen can help you to balance your energy to achieve a fulfilling, successful, happier life.
Kristen’s passion is helping you to achieve inner peace, purpose and clarity by discovering your own unique truth and working towards your highest potential.
Kristen practices in Camberwell, Victoria.