Finding your Self-love
Self-love is a sense of appreciation that you can develop for yourself by supporting your physical, emotional, and spiritual growth and well-being.
Self-love or self-compassion allows you to accept yourself as a whole being. To recognize your flaws and weaknesses as well as your strengths, and to be able to show kindness and compassion for yourself as you work towards finding personal meaning and fulfilment.
Self-love develops through your thoughts and behaviours. When you shift your attitudes and beliefs from self-judgment and criticism to compassion, care and kindness you create new neural pathways for self-love to develop, integrate and grow.
You can cultivate Self-love through the following:
Mindfulness-Based Self-Compassion (MBSC) is a branch of mindfulness meditation, based on Buddhist practices of self-compassion and loving kindness.
When you are mindful about how you treat yourself and connected to what you think and feel, you can notice where your inner critic tends to block your self-love efforts with judgment.
Practising Self-compassion helps you to slow down and notice how you speak to yourself and treat yourself.
Self-compassion is not to be confused with self-pity, a sense of feeling sorry for yourself, which fosters a victim mentality. Self-pity is disempowering and leads us to believe that the world should be more accepting of us instead of empowering us to develop resilience and self-acceptance.
You can care for yourself by making sure that your needs are met so that you can live a healthy life with healthy relationships to the best of your ability.
Self-care should not be confused with self-indulgence. It is one thing to take care of your physical needs by nourishing yourself with healthy food, sleep, social interaction and exercise, whilst it is another thing to ‘treat yourself’ to unhealthy sugary foods, purchase comfort items or spend time gossiping with a friend to experience a momentary sense of importance.
You’re a human, and like every human being throughout all of history you make mistakes. Instead of punishing yourself, can you see mistakes as an opportunity to grow and learn?
We often set our expectations of ourselves so high that they can’t be reached, which means we endlessly disappoint ourselves.
Consider setting your expectations of yourself to a human level where there is room for imperfection and see how much burden it lifts from your shoulders. Practice self-compassion and self-care when you make a mistake by acknowledging that you are human and humans make mistakes, show yourself kindness and understanding. You can also consider mistakes to be your best lessons, to be embraced as chances to learn and grow.
Our levels of self-love is determined by your ability to live with purpose and meaning. It often takes a considerable amount of courage to you follow your heart and intuition towards activities and interactions which bring you joy, peace and connection.
When we act in ways that expand our self-love, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths, we also become more centred in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfilment through our efforts.
Over time, you will find that loving and caring for yourself becomes easier and improves your life in many ways. It’s cliche but, loving and connecting with yourself is the key to love and connection with others.
Loving yourself enables you to raise your vibrational energy and feel empowered as the creator of your life. It is key to creating a passionate, fulfilled and joyful life.
Kinesiology can help you find your self-love.
Kinesiology muscle testing allows us to work with your subconscious mind bu unlocking emotion held in the body and the energy system. We can help you let go of what is no longer serving you on the path to your self-love.
Kristen is a qualified Kinesiologist, Counsellor, Yoga and Meditation teacher. She has been helping people with their physical, emotional and spiritual journeys for over a decade.
Kristen specialises in working with the mind-body connection. She works with the energy-body as an interface between the physical body and the mind. Bringing together kinesiology muscle testing, counselling, dreamwork, flower essences, chakra work, yoga and Chinese medicine, Kristen can help you to balance your energy to achieve a fulfilling, successful, happier life.
Kristen’s passion is uncovering the cause of illness and disease to help you achieve inner peace, purpose and clarity by discovering your own unique truth and working towards your highest potential.
Kristen practices from the SWell Centre in Hawthorn, Melbourne.