Building Self-Esteem

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Building Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a basic human need. It helps us cope with life’s difficulties and helps us feel good about ourselves, and our place in our communities. To achieve a high level of self-esteem, it is important to practice living consciously. We do this by practising self-acceptance, self-responsibility, assertiveness, and living with personal integrity.
Self-esteem is important for psychological development. It provides us with strength, resistance, and the ability to cope. The better our self-esteem is, the easier we find it to move through life with purpose and joy.
Self-esteem works by creating certain expectations about what we are capable of. Our expectations influence our behaviour in a way that turns them into reality.

Self-esteem and the right to be happy.

We all have a right to experience a peaceful state of mind and to be happy. Self-esteem allows us to assert that right and take the steps we need to achieve it. Low self-esteem may lead us to make choices that allow our negative thoughts and beliefs to manifest in our reality. High self-esteem drives us to stop creating problems for ourselves and to persevere where we run into difficulty.
Building self-esteem requires both a shift in mindset as well as action-oriented behaviour

Learn to accept yourself

Through self-acceptance, we can increase our self-esteem.
When we value ourselves, we’re practising self-acceptance. When we take time out to tend to our own needs we are exercising self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is about taking responsibility for ourselves, and this means taking control of your existence, and happiness by performing those tasks which build up our sense of self. Self- acceptance is often achieved through mindfulness meditation and self-compassion practices.

Stand Up for yourself

Fear of asserting our rights is quite normal. Fear comes from the idea that if we stand up for ourselves we will be judged, disapproved of or resented. This mindset is a direct obstacle to building our self-confidence. To be self-assertive you simply need to be unapologetic about who you are. To practice self-assertiveness, you need to believe that your beliefs and opinions matter. Each time you express yourself or stand up for your values, you strengthen your sense of self-esteem.

Live with purpose and integrity

Living with a sense of purpose is vital to a healthy sense of self-esteem built on our ability to develop and grow ourselves to achieve our fullest potential.
Without purpose and direction, we can find ourselves flailing.
It is important to have goals, to monitor progress and take responsibility for achieving them through dedicated and inspired actions. Actions that feel fulfilling and are in alignment with our values and ethics create a sense of integrity, which is the ability to align our dreams and our words with our actions.

Surround yourself with people who build you up.

A huge factor in building healthy self-esteem is who we surround ourselves with. People who accept you for who you are and are supportive of your dreams will help you build confidence in yourself and act upon your dreams. If you find yourself surrounded by critical or negative people consider that you may actually be sabotaging yourself by allowing yourself to be subject to criticism. Reducing your contact with these people or pointing out to them how their negativity may affect their own self-esteem so that they can take action to break the cycle.

Techniques you can use to develop high self-esteem:

  • Self-acceptance – You can build your ability to accept yourself through affirmation exercises including mirror work. Stand in front of the mirror every morning and repeat the line “I accept myself”
  • Assert yourself – Next time you disagree with someone who’s opinion conflicts with your values and beliefs calmly tell them that you simply disagree.  There’s no need to be drawn into a debate about why (unless you’re up for one).
  • Live your purpose – Consider a way in which you can be of service to the world and take one action to follow though on that.
  • Silence your critics – Are there people in your life who are consistently critical of your ideas? Try sharing your dreams with someone who is supportive of you and keep them to yourself when around critics.

Kinesiology can help you build self-esteem.

Kinesiology in combination with Counselling, Dreamwork, Yoga and Vibrational medicine practices can help you to soften the inner critic, boost your self-esteem, connect you to your purpose and balance body and mind.

Suggested treatment plan.

I recommend:

  • An initial 90-minute kinesiology consultation followed by 3 – 5 standard consultations 1 -2 weeks apart.
  • Further follow-up standard consultations should be spaced between 2 -4 weeks apart or booked as needed.

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Recommended reading:

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden shows us that healthy self-esteem is something we can achieve.







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